About Me

This is me, The Rat...partner since 2001 to Concrete_Man, mum to Rat_Girl (born 13.12.05) and Rat_Boy (born 14.05.09). Co-inhabiting our nest are 2 rather large fury 4 legged rats, Boxer_Dog and Black_Dog. We run a business from the nest with Concrete_Man doing the manly physical work while I stay at home and do the 'other' stuff. This means we are often busy, often stressed and often very tired...but then again who isn't! Anyway that's enough for now. As time goes by you will learn a bit more about the family that is "MummaRat's Nest"

June 10, 2010

Not 'just' mum

Following on from a comment by a wonderful friend on one of my previous posts, I want to know..

What do you do or what would you like to try to make you feel like you are not 'just' mum???

I know that really there is no such thing as 'just' a mum but sometimes that's how us mums feel and sometimes we just need to break away for a bit. I need to really think as it seems like forever since I've done anything other than work, take care of family and house and the occasional work out!

But I'd love to hear from others.
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  1. SilverMoon DragonJune 10, 2010 at 3:47 PM

    I don't have anything - I guess that's why I feel exactly like your last few posts have said.
    I used to do a bunch of things, but somehow since Master Two was born I haven't started up again after the newborn busy stage was over.

    I used to play guitar, both covers, and writing my own songs, I used to get drunk and watch movies on a Friday with my best friend who was our housemate at the time. And I went out once a month for dinner with BookCrossing people.

    But then we moved, and instead of being a 20 minute bus or train trip from Melbourne, with public transport available until midnight every night of the week, I'm now a $25 each way cab fare from Geelong, which is much smaller anyway. And my best friend still lives in Melbourne.

    It makes things a lot harder.

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  2. MuMmARatJune 13, 2010 at 11:22 AM

    Yes the distance and travel would make it much harder.

    I am glad to hear that it's not just me, but also sad to hear that others feel the same way.

    The next 2 weeks concrete man is away so I am going to have nights to myself so I'm going to use that time to really sit and think and try and schedule in some time for me to be me...

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  3. KellyJune 27, 2010 at 8:23 PM

    Woot, i'm wonderful!

    I have no life. The isolation here makes it so hard. I'm hanging out to move so I can get back out and do stuff but it just doesn't seem to be happening, there's too many obstacles.

    But when we move, here are my plans.
    -I will get fit and feel healthy again. Probably by buying myself a bike, and getting up early and running.
    -I will challenge myself with my hobbies. My sewing skills have sort of stagnated over the last year or so, and i'd love to be able to crochet myself some nice things rather than endless beanies and headbands!
    -I'll try the rest of the interesting things I want to try. I want to organise to do something new at least once a month. Like more dyeing, paper making, cheese making and all sorts of skills.
    -Get my social life back again, and make an effort with people. Because i've always been slack with keeping up with people, and I need to improve that so I can have some friendships with depth, rather than acquaintances.
    -And.......deep breath.........I am going to stop being so possessive of my children. I may even go away for a night or two without them. It is bad, I am suffocated, but I still hate being away from them.

    Man my life sucks *sobs* Oh well, the only way is up! What have you done so far?

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