R.I.P Grandad
22/04/1922 - 24/05/2010
Firstly, I just have to note that the year of birth at the top might be a guess, I'm sure he's 88 but he could be 89.
He's been in and our of hospital over the last few years with various things along with dealing with dementia. Last week he was admitted to emergency with what looked to be kidney failure. On Saturday while we were driving home I received a message from my mum that they had moved him to a private room and called family in to say their farewells as his kidneys had shut down and it was only a matter of time. Mum and dad said their final goodbyes on Saturday, dad's sister was in town to visit and a long standing rift meant the 2 of them would not be in the same room at the same time. As it was 2 days later he passed away.
It's been really tough for me today, not because I've been upset but because I haven't been. My father didn't have a relationship with his dad which meant we also didn't have a relationship with him. He treated my dad horrible for a lot of Dad's life. And even recently dad supported him and his wife financially and was completely taken advantage of. However on the flip side, my extended family, dad's step brother and half sisters along with their kids did have a relationship with him and he was a dad and grandad to them...so for them I feel upset and for them my heart aches.
I am sure that on Monday when I attend his funeral, the first ever funeral I have attended for a family I'll feel it and I'll cry and I'll be upset and I will be there for the rest of my family however they need me.
The above photo was taken at Rat_boys christening just over a year ago.
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